Are you Riding the Weight Loss Struggle Bus?

If it seems like losing weight and getting a body you can finally feel comfortable in is a lifelong battle.

I want you to know you’re not alone, and it’s not your fault.

What I also want you to know if that there is a faster and easier way to get the body you love without all the struggle, stress and strife.

But before we get to that,

Here’s what you’re probably experiencing right now…

“I’ve tried everything and nothing works!”

You step on the scale Monday morning and you’ve gained 3 pounds. All that being good during the week is washed away during the weekend and your back to where you were last week, or even worse, you're up even more.

No matter how many different diets you try, they all work… until they dont and your back to losing the same 10 pounds over and over again, it seems like you’ve been dieting your whole life and it doesn't even look like you tried to lose weight.

It’s crushing your confidence and self esteem making you feel not worthy or good enough.

“Wearing clothes you dont want to wear”

Monday morning is here, you’re already running behind but you're frantically searching for something to wear that you haven't worn over and over again.

Nothing fits right and you’re tired of trying to hide your body,

There’s a pile of clothes on the floor that you know dont fit but tried to put on anyway. You're upset that you have to wear the same outfit AGAIN and your day is already off to a rough start and you're not looking forward to the meeting you know you have to speak at because your feeling self conscious in the way you look.

Because of this you dont get the respect and admiration that you want for the work you do and are afraid to ask for a raise or get a new job because your not secure with how you look compared to other people and its costing you money.

“You feel stagnant and your energy is stuck and because of that, your life feels stuck and is passing you by”

Your so sick of breaking the commitments and promises you made to yourself that you were going to “get it together” By now you lost all trust in yourself that you can actually stick to any diet and much of anything except the day in and day out of work.

You REALLY want to lose weight, have more energy and feel better but you know in the past you failed over and over again and you just dont know if you can succeed.

You feel even more stuck when you’re at home because.. let’s be honest it’s a bit of a mess.

There is a lot of clutter, laundry needs to be put away, dishes need to be done. 

The closet needs organizing.

Being at home gives you anxiety because it doesn't feel comforting and a place where you can unwind after a stressful day at work.

“I’m a perfectionist which makes everything so hard to get right”

You make sure everything is done right, including trying trying to be perfect on you diet. But you slip up, especially when it comes to those late night cravings you cant seem to say no to.

You’re “good” all day, but night time is you down fall. “Screw it, I already messed up might as well keep going at this point”

This happens again and again, and the scale never seems to move.

You make sure all your work is perfect so people like you and think you’re good at what you do. Because of this, things take FOREVER or rarely get done on time. This causes you to be overwhelmed with things and stuff to do and you list seems way too big.

You get overwhelmed and go into “shut down mode” and end up doing nothing at all.. Which overwhelms you even more because you didn't do anything!

What you’re really experiencing that upsets you…

Your lonely and feel you will be forever unless you can lose weight

The insecurity and lack of confidence in your body makes you feel uncomfortable to become intimate with a man. You keep telling yourself… “When I lose the weight…” my relationship will be better or I’ll finally find a boyfriend.

Instead you spend the weekends watching TV trying to escape the uncomfortable loneliness you feel.

This is the advice your probably following…

Chances are you’ve convinced yourself that you new to start a new diet, start fresh something different and exciting you to kickstart your motivation.

Your probably thinking you need to “be better with food” and not slip up on the weekends so much and be more consistent.

Maybe you've been told that you need to do more cardio and be in the gym more to burn off the calories from being “bad”

Because your following this advice, this is why you’re struggling.

How this advice is harming you…

The reason why you are struggling is because you’re trying to solve a symptom, not the problem. If a diet really worked, I mean if it followed through on what it promised, you would have lost the weight by now right?

It’s not your fault, you have been convinced over the years that trying to follow a diet is the answer to losing weight and keeping it off. Don’t worry, plenty of people fall for this trap so you’re not alone.

What I advise you to stop doing…

If you feel like you’re counting down the days until the diet is over or you just can’t wait for it to end. I would HIGHLY suggest you find an alternative way of going about trying to lose weight.

Why? Because guess what, as soon as that diet is over… You are going to go RIGHT BACK to all the foods you felt you couldn't have because they were “bad” and this is going to send you down a slippery slope towards gaining all the weight back.

I also recommend stop using the shame you feel about your body and the guilt you have for slipping up on your diet as a means of punishing yourself to lose weight because you were “bad” over the weekend. Use a way to motivate and inspire yourself that doesn't involve negative thinking and frustration to drive you.

Stop focusing on trying to be perfect and prove that you are good enough to other people and to yourself.

What I advise you to start doing…

Start by creating small commitments or habits that will allow you to make small changes to your life and diet. This will rebuild your confidence in yourself again.

Remind yourself of what you ARE confident and competent in, meaning shift your focus away from the “negative” and being awareness into the positive aspects of yourself and of your life.

Start by keeping track of your victories or wins for the day, this will help remind yourself that things are indeed OK in your life, even though they may not be where you want them to be.

If you’re ready to take the next step and end your battle with your body and finally feel great, click the get started tab at the top of the page.

Memento Mori

Memento Mori

As I was brushing my teeth this morning I found my first few grey hairs on my beard...

A wonderful reminder of mortality at 4:30 in the morning.

This year has gone by fast, and every year it seems to go by a bit faster.

"It's funny how day by day nothing has changed. But when you look back everything is different."